How to use Affirmations Effectively?
Some of you might already be law of attraction practitioners and using affirmations effectively. When I started Gratitude journaling, I had heard about affirmations but I didn’t know exactly what they are and how they work. In this post, I would love to talk a bit on some of the questions I had about affirmations before I started practicing them.
I have observed this about myself. Whenever I feel not so great during the day, it’s because I’m either becoming anxious about the future, dwelling on the past or not caring about myself enough or so to say, self-care has reduced significantly. Shifting my focus to being grateful allows me to become mindful and let go of the past and become hopeful about the future (instead of becoming fearful) I have a harder time to bring myself up when my self-care or self-love has reduced significantly. These are the times when I tend to be hard on myself for small things or I feel that I’m not competent enough to achieve my goals. For e.g. I tend to get angry at myself for not doing enough, especially when I’m comparing myself with someone who is doing better, or someone who is more successful. It’s not the feeling of envy towards the other person but anger and feeling of not enough towards myself. And when I was in a rut, these feelings and dialogue would constantly popup. The feeling of not being enough, not being worthy! Are these true? Not really. This is the result of me allowing my mind to think compulsively and let it control me. How do I stop it? One of the tools to the rescue are positive affirmations.
"I'm never going to be able to do this job; I'm just not smart enough."
"Why does my boss want me to present at the trade show? I'm a terrible public speaker, and I'll just embarrass the company."
"I wish I could stick up for myself at work. In every meeting, I let the others walk over my ideas. I'm never going to get ahead."
Many of us have negative thoughts like these, sometimes frequently. When we think like this, our confidence, mood and outlook can become negative, too.
The problem with negative thoughts is that they can become self-fulfilling prophecies. We talk ourselves into believing that we're not good enough. And, as a result, these thoughts drag down our personal lives, our relationships, and our careers.
But, if we deliberately do the opposite and use positive thoughts about ourselves, the effect can be just as powerful but far more helpful.
In this article, we'll explore how you can use affirmations to drive positive change in your career, and in your life in general.
What Are Affirmations, and Do They Work?
Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.
You might consider affirmations to be unrealistic "wishful thinking." But try looking at positive affirmations this way: many of us do repetitive exercises to improve our physical health, and affirmations are like exercises for our mind and outlook. These positive mental repetitions can reprogram our thinking patterns so that, over time, we begin to think – and act – differently.
For example, evidence suggests that affirmations can help you to perform better at work. According to researchers, spending just a few minutes thinking about your best qualities before a high-pressure meeting – a performance review, for example – can calm your nerves, increase your confidence, and improve your chances of a successful outcome.
Self-affirmation may also help to mitigate the effects of stress. In one study, a short affirmation exercise boosted the problem-solving abilities of "chronically stressed" subjects to the same level as those with low stress.
What's more, affirmations have been used to successfully treat people with low self-esteem, depression, and other mental health conditions. And they have been shown to stimulate the areas in our brains that make us more likely to affect positive changes in regard to our health.
This latter study suggests that a stronger sense of self-worth makes you more likely to improve your own well-being. So, for example, if you're worried that you eat too much and don't get enough exercise , using affirmations to remind yourself of your values can spur you on to change your behavior.
How to Use Positive Affirmations
You can use affirmations in any situation where you'd like to see a positive change take place in your life. These might include times when you want to:
Raise your confidence before presentations or important meetings
Control negative feelings such as frustration, anger, or impatience
Improve your self-esteem
Finish projects you've started
Improve your productivity
Overcome a bad habit
Affirmations may be more effective when you pair them with other positive thinking and goal-setting techniques.
For instance, affirmations work particularly well alongside Visualization . So, instead of just picturing the change you'd like to see, you can also write it down or say it aloud using a positive affirmation.
Affirmations are also useful when setting personal goals . Once you've identified the goals you'd like to achieve, affirmative statements can help you to keep yourself motivated in order to achieve them.
The power of affirmations lies in repeating them to yourself regularly. It's useful to recite your affirmations several times a day (have them pop up in your notifications!). You also need to repeat your affirmations as soon as you engage in the negative thought or behavior that you want to overcome.
How to Write an Affirmation Statement
Affirmation statements usually target a specific area, behavior or belief that you're struggling with. The following points can help you to write the affirmation statement that best fits your needs.